(Taken from my free book connecting to life’s compass)
WHAT’S THE MATTER WITH YOU? NOTHING!
That’s Right! There is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
You are perfect no matter what you are doing, choosing or being.
“But what about if I do something wrong, bad, negative or really serious? How does this affect the good things that I do?”
“I AM CONFUSED?”
Wrong or right! Good or bad, judgement, ideals, there are so many labels to choose from, none that will define you completely.
“How am I perfect amongst the many choices I am making?”
It does not matter if it is conscious, deliberate or unconscious in the whole picture of life.
No matter what you do, be or not, it comes back to the self, life here is about many different experiences to help us understand the meaning of life.
We are taught to judge ourselves, or to judge others, yet if you do not fully understand yourself, how are you able to understand the bigger picture.
No one is really equipped enough to judge themselves let alone another. We only ever look at bits and pieces of ourselves and see the bits that others share with us. So what is the use in judgement or labels? They are just labels that have caught us in the big net of fear.
“But what if I have hurt others, or abused others or I have experienced these things?”
“I have been kind and thoughtful to another and yet my gift of kindness has been ignored, misunderstood or taken the wrong way.”
“I don’t fit in, the opinions of others makes me feel worthless, invisible, weak or ugly.”
To be honest it would take a book all of its own to cover all the labels, names, judgements and headings we live under.
We may look at them as our rules and guidance of life, condemnation too. It certainly does not feel like free will and choice in freedom to be self-accepted.
If you are labelled good you get good things and rewards. If you are labelled bad you get punished and go to hell.
I ASK YOU THIS!
Where on the universal map is hell or heaven? Where is its location, map reference, or star reference in shape or form? Geographically, scientifically, numerological, zodiac, or spiritually/ religious speaking, do you know?
If you cannot remember before your physical birth and cannot remember past what we call death, how are you so sure these places exist?
These places only exist in thought and fear, because in truth we all don’t know or don’t remember or have forgotten. So we believe the stories handed down to us, and hold onto them without questioning them. Yet, as children you questioned everything, much to the annoyance of everyone around you.
When did questioning life stop?
It stopped when you were told you are wrong, or bad for thinking differently to the structure of understanding around us. So the main object to life here, that starts you off on your journey, is to conform and fit in, if you don’t you will be alone, isolated and ignored and worse punished.
Yet why is it we encourage children to use their imaginations and yet as adults we are too scared to do so.
So many questions while searching for so many answers; no wonder at times life here is so frustrating and doesn’t make sense.
So it looks like a lot goes on in thought and fear that moulds our life. How well are you in control of your thoughts anyway?
We only have Earth to go on, we once believed the Earth to be flat and then we changed our minds to believing it now to be round.
What is right or wrong? Or who is right or wrong? It is about discovering more than what we once believed or understood to be true. There are many ways of looking at things, either as a small piece or the bigger picture.
It all comes back to our own personal choice through what we experience.
This influences us on what we hold onto to be true, or what we believe on our own level of understanding.
So we all agree earth is a small planet amongst the infinite planets, amongst an infinite universe. Yet we think we know the whole from the small piece that we hold on to, from the whole picture of life from the perspective of earth.
It is a bit like gathering every human being and every living thing and cramming them into one country on Earth. And then everyone says this is it, nothing else exists outside this one country.
If there is more out there, we expect to still understand the whole of it, from the bits and pieces explored so far, from the position and location of that one country.
Those that have travelled or googled planet Earth, or have ventured out into the big wide world and space soon realize how big life is. Some become aware of different weather systems, landscapes which creates different experiences across the globe and that of space.
To travel outside of our comfort zones, we think is to travel outside of ourselves. Yet we can travel inside of ourselves and equally be out of our comfort zone. We can run away and hide on the surface of everyday life and can equally run away from our core of who we are.
Why do we run away from anything?
It is because it becomes overwhelming, confusing, and too big.
Why is it too vast at times….it is because we are infinite.
We know we are infinite which is why we are taught to scale it down here on Earth; categorise, pigeon hole and label things, to make it all that more manageable.
Yet lift the lid on the limiting control, we are then open to everything we close ourselves off from and hide away from.
So we stick to what is familiar, our comfort zones and make things fit, make them stick by repeating the same old. And we wonder why we get bored and frustrated, because deep down we remember there is so much more than we are allowing ourselves to access.
Why do we not access this if deep down we know it is there?
Yes that’s it – fear is the biggest disease on planet Earth, yet is our comfort zone and our trap.
“So if fear is the only thing stopping me, how do I overcome fear?”
It takes confidence and a willingness to face at times, the unknown, which takes trust in the self. How well do you know yourself! Are you comfortable enough in you to explore past your comfort zone?
It is about being confident enough within you to face the challenges and take the risks.
“Well what happens if I have an accident? I could make a mistake; I could die or be killed. I am scared and fearful, who would save me? I would feel alone….”
When have you ever been alone? Even when you experience things on your own, you are with you, the air and the landscape is around you. You may take the landscape or the trees for granted and not pay much attention to them, yet they house many creatures and have those who have trekked via foot. So please do not under estimate the importance of how everything around you nurtures you.
So many thoughts that are never ending! So many pressures, responsibility and expectations, no wonder life may feel more stressful than fun.
With so much going on all the time, even when escaping life on a holiday, we may still bring many of these demands with us.
Life is a bit like a film, so many films to choose from. From thrillers, comedy, inspiring or boring. We say art imitates life!
Yet all films, no matter what subject heading, are telling a story about an experience whether we have experienced it or not.
How does the experience make us feel? How do we handle or manage the experience? How do you react to it or not?
We know that how we face it or not, it will lead us into the next experience that we are continuingly creating. We are so used to doing this that we take it for granted, how much control we have in our lives even if we are the driver or passenger, leader or follower.
We do not pay too much attention to this process because we are not interested in the journey; that is ignored. What we are more interested in is the answer, the outcome. You know when someone says, `Oh you must watch this film; it is brilliant you will love it’ Well what is it about? Some may want to know the ending before even watching the beginning.
Many critics will give their own opinion, judgements, and take on it. Some will love it, hate it, rave it, or bin it. Does it really matter? As it has created a reaction of feelings and emotions, your reaction makes you dig deep into how you feel.
Well you may not be the actor or the producer or the writer of this particular film, you give your energy in what you call free time, in which to watch it. You are sharing and joining in with the creation no matter who came up with the idea. It shows no matter what any one of you do, no matter what you create or not, you are connected to everyone.
We are all connected.
What is the point of creating music if no one is around to appreciate it and listen to it? What is the point in painting a picture if no one notices it? What is the point in doing anything if it is not recognised? Whatever you create it will always be noticed, always known, by YOU first before anyone else.
So who are you creating for? The family, the community, the world! What do you want to become?
“It could be to become famous with lots of success and riches!”
Say you create a song and you love it, you feel it because you are connected to it. The flow of energy and passion flows from you into what you are making. Everyone who listens to it feels what you do; the flow of energy touches every hair on the back of your neck and arms, standing up in applause.
It’s produced and marketed, every groove on the disc captures every vibration and frequency in each note. It is launched and played on the radio and TV, the public love it, and it is a hit.
The phone starts ringing offering you contracts and agents are now falling at your feet wanting to manage you.
You are flattered and feel valued and important, but who got noticed first the music, you or the public which creates a wave of pound notes.
Money talk’s right, money connects! Yet who started this wave?
YOU did by connecting to your joy and passion in which to create music.
How long before the spark of creating gets forgotten, the meaning and drive gets lost. Once it was all about your love of music, then its pushed aside by business to please the public, to give them more, to keep you on top and keep ALL involved rich and successful.
Are you as happy as when you first had the dream? The first few songs are all you, you love them! But what happened once you got managed – did this change?
“Yes they told me what they wanted me to sing or write!”
So it does not come from you any more then?
“Well yes it does as I still have to face the public and turn up and perform.”
So you have changed your position from creator to performer. Was this your dream and goal?
“Well yes and no, I wanted to create and I am so pleased the public love it.”
What’s the piece of you that you’re told to share; is that what you mean? Are you content and happy with that?
“I was to start with but now I am not, the rush of attention and money was fun at first, but when it comes back to the self this is not enough.”
What fame and fortune is not enough. Really! So what happens now that you find yourself in this position?
“I have had to do a lot of soul searching, and face my truth of how I feel. It worries me because a lot of people expect so much from me. I have to let go of people that no longer benefit me. I have to try and get out of contracts which no longer suit me. Oh the stress of it all, I never knew creating held so much responsibility.”
“I am so depressed and look back at the years with tears in my eyes, what a waste of all those years.”
Hang on a minute are you telling me you have not enjoyed one thing on this journey so far?
“No I have bits and pieces of it, but the whole of it…. no.”
So there is nothing wrong with it then. You are realizing your truth, you lost your connection to why you started creating music in the first place and now you have reconnected and remembered. You can use the experience to create how you wish to continue, being your best manager in you, no matter who you share it with. So really all you lost sight of was YOU! Your fans love you and I am sure being honest and true to yourself, they will continue to support you.
Now you can feel the strength in you once again, the strength that started you off in the first place. Manage you well and never lose sight of you, you will always be there and you will always be your number one fan.
The most important meaning is what we learn from the experience; all the experiences that we face build our foundations, our base. These are our own personal roots like the many trees you see in the forest. Many are hundreds of years old; they have stood the test of time no matter what has been thrown at them.
How? By having strong roots, not strong branches as we know branches fall off only to be replaced.